Metaphysical Flailing
Posted by: Finch in Musings, tags: death, family, friends, futility, health, memory, motivation, timeI keep wanting to say something, but I’m not sure what.
I’ve learned some things in the last couple of weeks. I’ve learned explicitly that the will to live trumps comfort or convenience every day of the week, without exception. I’ve remembered that the only thing that matters in life is communication. And I’ve had it demonstrated to me all too personally that, sometimes, cures kill. Yeah, it’s been a tough couple of weeks.
I’ve also learned that some of my advice is actually pretty good, having had an opportunity to swallow it in context. I still believe that, no matter how a relationship ends, if it doesn’t hurt like hell you were doing it wrong. I believe that beautiful things can’t die; when we mourn, we mourn only the loss of potential, because whatever we experienced before that loss can never be taken from us. And, finally, I believe that when you knew what the right thing to do was, and you didn’t do it, you’ve done the worst thing you could have done, whether you did something or not.
I’ve reaffirmed that my loved ones are precious to me, and learned that when people threaten them seriously I feel absolute eye-popping spit-snarling breath-stealing rage, the kind that generates massive adrenaline surges, heroic surges of strength and coordination, and really bad decisions — undoubtedly it’s from Mom’s side of the family, where the Scots hang out. Probably not the most useful reaction it could evoke, but not one I’m ashamed of, either.
I’ve learned that “Fading Lights” by Genesis holds up better than I thought it would. Don’t just google the lyrics, it’s not the same without the music.
And finally, I’ve reaffirmed that no matter what else, I write.
So where am I going with this? I don’t know, really. 2009 has come in hard and heavy, and it’s warned me that there’s change in the air, but it’s also reassured me that I know who I am and what I believe. Maybe that’s enough to weather the coming storm.
